Feel Like Others Find Albizu Cognitive Psychosoc

(300 words minimum for main posting with 200 word replies to two classmates)

For this discussion, address the following:

• Looking back on your own life and your development throughout the lifespan up until the present time, which one of your developmental stages was the most important in helping you become who you are today?
• Why?
• Attached my self evaluation and you can also be guided by the answers of Mireldys and Vanessa

200 word reply to Mireldys

I would like to begin discussion by emphasizing how significant and enriching was reading The Developing Person Through the Life Span. Learning about the different developmental stages and gaining understanding of each stage in particular, as to what each involves was very fascinating. It really allowed me to understand more of myself and be able to identify events that took place throughout my life that defined me as I am.

As I look back and reflect on my own life and personal development throughout my lifespan up until the present time. I feel that my middle childhood was a very important developmental stage in my life which highly influenced the person that I am today. During this developmental stage not only did I experience numerous physical changes but also a lot of emotional ones. Particularly that I migrated to the unites states during that time in my life. This event impacted my life in many ways, especially because my mother, sister and stepfather stayed behind in Cuba. Having to leave Cuba was a radical change as I had to leave everything I had known behind, most importantly leaving my mother and sister behind. I came to the unites states to live with my father who had already been living in the Unites States during that time. Fortunately, few months after my arrival my mother, sister and stepfather arrived to the united states.

During that time in my life, I experienced numerous challenges, adaptation, social integration, self-esteem issues. I had begun school at a foreign country with a different language, teaching style, and culture which affected my academic journey. I was always a good student and facing this language barrier affected my emotional wellbeing during that time. My social interactions and relationships were also difficult due language difference. Leading to multiple bullying experiences. I experienced a lot of discrimination, emotional uncertainty, and adaptation challenges because of it.

However, I strongly feel that I successfully overcame those challenges due to my family structure, the way my parents raised me and the dynamic they implemented with me during those years. Even though i was raised by divorced parents. I believe they did an amazing job and were able to properly coparent and have a functional and healthy environment for myself. Ultimately this was increasingly beneficial towards my overall development.

200 word reply to Vanessa

Looking back at my life and my development throughout my life span until the present time, I want to say that the developmental stage that was most important in helping me become who I am today is the Industry vs. Inferiority stage. In this stage, which is typically experienced between ages 5-12, a child feels the need to win approval by demonstrating specific competencies that are valued by society and begin to develop a sense of pride in their accomplishments. Although all the stages played an important role, I believe that this stage may hold just a little more weight than the others.

One of the reasons why I chose this stage is because of the simple fact that I consider myself to be an overachiever. I am also a people pleaser and enjoy feeling approval from others. I do not seek approval when it comes to the person I am and the choices I make (although some opinions are important and matter to me), but approval of my work and the way I can assist others in a time of need. From a very young age, I have always worked hard. I feel like working hard gives me a purpose. It gives me a sense of pride in what I do, especially when I do it well. Even until this day, when a professor, colleague, friend, or my boss compliments my work, I feel very good about myself. I believe that instinctively, we all want to feel valued by others. We also want to feel like others find us competent and useful. As an adult, I always strive to be up to date with technology and anything that would be useful to others so that if they need assistance, they know they can come to me. I really enjoy being a resource for others. I often find myself laughing because at work, when technology fails, a lot of my co-workers call me to help solve the issue (or at least try).

This developmental stage has really paved the way in helping me become who I am today. I have realized that this can also backfire on me. Often times, people would rather seek help instead of trying to solve something themselves. I have realized that people can take your desire to help and provide relief to their advantage. As with everything, balance is important. It is important for me to learn how to tell the difference between helping someone and having someone take advantage of what I can offer to them.